SEXUAL HARRASMENT;THE EPIDERMIC NO ONE TALKS ABOUT
"SO, WHEN SEXUAL HARRASMENT HAS BEEN SEEN IN HER SOCIETY AS AN ACT THAT IS TOTALLY THE FEMALE SPECIE'S FAULT,WHY THEN SHOULD SHE SUFFER MORAL STIGMA OF AN UNFORTUNATE ACT BEEN INFLICTED UPON HER BY LETTING PEOPLE KNOW ABOUT IT? IT'S NOT A THING OF JOY,MOST WILL BE JUDGEMENTAL! ESPECIALLY IN THIS PART OF THE WORLD(NIGERIA).
THE POPULAR BELIEF IN NIGERIA IS THAT HARRASMENT IS BEEN DRIVEN MY INDECENT DRESSING ON THE GIRLS PART REMEMBERING THAT THERE IS A PSYCHOLOGICAL DISORDER (ORAL FIXATION AND DOMINANCE OF ID)ATTACHED TO IT BASED ON THE ONE DOING THE HARRASMENT
THE FEMALE CHILD IN NIGERIA IS THE ONLY CHILD WHOSE EVERY SICKNESS WOULD BE ASSOCIATED TO AN UNWANTED PREGNANCY,THEY ARE SEEN AS WEAK, LESS WORTHY, PRONE TO DECEIT, IN FACT "FOOLISH" AS THE MALE WORLD PUT IT.
NOW LOOKING AT A CASE OF A YORUBA GIRL WHO WAS RASED UP TO BE MORALLY UPRIGHT AND MODESTLY DRESSED,
WHO NOW HAPPENED TO BE MOLESTED BY HER OWN VERY FATHER,SHE TOLD HER MOTHER ABOUT IT, BUT HEY! IN THE YORUBA WORLD,A WOMAN IS ALWAYS THINKING OF HER "ILE-OKO" (MATRIMONIAL HOME) BEFORE ANY OTHER THING.
ALL SHE MADE CONFIRMED FROM THE DAUGTER WAS THE FACT THAT AN ACTUAL RAPE DIDNT HAPPEN AS SHE(MOTHER) DIDNT WANT TO LOSE HER HUSBAND AND STATUS IN THE EYES OF THE SOCIETY AND HER HUSBAND'S FAMILY.
THE CASE BEING THAT THE HUSBAND IN QUESTION IS A WELL KNOWNED MAN, WHO IS SEEN AS "A SAINT" BY THE PEOPLE.
WHO WILL BELIEVE THE ACCUSATION IF THE PEOPLE SHE WOULD REPORT TO ARE ACTUALLY SYMPATHETIC TO THE MAN?
WHO WILL SEE THE SITUATION AS IT IS AND NOT AS A FALSEFUL ALLEGATION TO DEFAME THE SO CALLED "SAINT"
IF IT WERE TO BE IN ANOTHER WORLD LIKE EUROPE, A WOMAN IS CONCERNED ABOUT THE WELFARISM OF HER DAUGHTER FIRST BEFORE MARRRIAGE AND IS LIKELY TO SUE HER HUSBAND, WIN THE CASE AND STILL PRAISED BY THE SOCIETY FOR DOING THE RIGHT THING BUT IN A SOCIETY LIKE NIGERIA WHERE THE MEN ARE SEEN AS AN ENTITY WHO COULD DO NO WRONG,AND WHEN A WOMAN SUES HER HUSBAND FOR SUCH CRIME,SHE IS SEEN AS A DISGRACE TO WOMANHOOD.
THE SITUATION WILL NOT EVEN BE EXAMINED IF IT IS ACTUALLY TRUE,RATHER SHE WOULD BE ADVICED TO SETTLE IT WITHIN THE FAMILY.
IN THAT CASE, BECAUSE IT IS WRONG TO QUESTION AND DISGRACE ONES HUSBAND IN YORUBA LAND(NIGERIA) THAT VERY CRIME WILL BE SHELVED AND THEY ARE EXPECTED TO CARRY ON WITH THEIR LIVES AS IF NOTHING HAPPENED.
BUT, WAIT! NOBODY IS THINKING ABOUT THE MOLESTED GIRL IN QUESTION, THE TRAUMA SHE IS GOING THROUGH,HOW SHE NOW FEELS ABOUT LIFE?,HERSELF?,HER FATHER?, MEN IN TOTALITY?,WHAT CAN BE DONE TO RESTORE HER CONFIDENCE AND HOW CAN SHE BE ABLE TO PURIFY HERSELF INTERNALLY AND STOP SEEING HERSELF AS DIRTY LIKE THE STIGMA THE SOCIETY HAS PLACED ON HER? BUT RATHER SHE WOULD EVEN BE REBUKED OF WANTING TO DESTROY HER PARENTS MARRIAGE BUT WHAT ABOUT HER RIGHT TO SAFETY? ZERO! BECAUSE OF CULTURE. NO ONE WANTS TO TALK ABOUT SUCH SITUATION BECAUSE IT IS SEEN AS A TOPIC THAT SHOULD NOT EVEN PASS BY A "SECOND EAR" AS THE YORUBAS PUT IT.
WE ARE IN A SOCIETY IN WHICH EVERY
MAN'S MISDEED IS SEEN AS NORMALCY AND A FEMALE'S MISDEED IS SEEN AS A GRAVE OFFENCE
"SO, WHEN SEXUAL HARRASMENT HAS BEEN SEEN IN HER SOCIETY AS AN ACT THAT IS TOTALLY THE FEMALE SPECIE'S FAULT,WHY THEN SHOULD SHE SUFFER MORAL STIGMA OF AN UNFORTUNATE ACT BEEN INFLICTED UPON HER BY LETTING PEOPLE KNOW ABOUT IT? IT'S NOT A THING OF JOY,MOST WILL BE JUDGEMENTAL! ESPECIALLY IN THIS PART OF THE WORLD(NIGERIA).
THE POPULAR BELIEF IN NIGERIA IS THAT HARRASMENT IS BEEN DRIVEN MY INDECENT DRESSING ON THE GIRLS PART REMEMBERING THAT THERE IS A PSYCHOLOGICAL DISORDER (ORAL FIXATION AND DOMINANCE OF ID)ATTACHED TO IT BASED ON THE ONE DOING THE HARRASMENT
THE FEMALE CHILD IN NIGERIA IS THE ONLY CHILD WHOSE EVERY SICKNESS WOULD BE ASSOCIATED TO AN UNWANTED PREGNANCY,THEY ARE SEEN AS WEAK, LESS WORTHY, PRONE TO DECEIT, IN FACT "FOOLISH" AS THE MALE WORLD PUT IT.
NOW LOOKING AT A CASE OF A YORUBA GIRL WHO WAS RASED UP TO BE MORALLY UPRIGHT AND MODESTLY DRESSED,
WHO NOW HAPPENED TO BE MOLESTED BY HER OWN VERY FATHER,SHE TOLD HER MOTHER ABOUT IT, BUT HEY! IN THE YORUBA WORLD,A WOMAN IS ALWAYS THINKING OF HER "ILE-OKO" (MATRIMONIAL HOME) BEFORE ANY OTHER THING.
ALL SHE MADE CONFIRMED FROM THE DAUGTER WAS THE FACT THAT AN ACTUAL RAPE DIDNT HAPPEN AS SHE(MOTHER) DIDNT WANT TO LOSE HER HUSBAND AND STATUS IN THE EYES OF THE SOCIETY AND HER HUSBAND'S FAMILY.
THE CASE BEING THAT THE HUSBAND IN QUESTION IS A WELL KNOWNED MAN, WHO IS SEEN AS "A SAINT" BY THE PEOPLE.
WHO WILL BELIEVE THE ACCUSATION IF THE PEOPLE SHE WOULD REPORT TO ARE ACTUALLY SYMPATHETIC TO THE MAN?
WHO WILL SEE THE SITUATION AS IT IS AND NOT AS A FALSEFUL ALLEGATION TO DEFAME THE SO CALLED "SAINT"
IF IT WERE TO BE IN ANOTHER WORLD LIKE EUROPE, A WOMAN IS CONCERNED ABOUT THE WELFARISM OF HER DAUGHTER FIRST BEFORE MARRRIAGE AND IS LIKELY TO SUE HER HUSBAND, WIN THE CASE AND STILL PRAISED BY THE SOCIETY FOR DOING THE RIGHT THING BUT IN A SOCIETY LIKE NIGERIA WHERE THE MEN ARE SEEN AS AN ENTITY WHO COULD DO NO WRONG,AND WHEN A WOMAN SUES HER HUSBAND FOR SUCH CRIME,SHE IS SEEN AS A DISGRACE TO WOMANHOOD.
THE SITUATION WILL NOT EVEN BE EXAMINED IF IT IS ACTUALLY TRUE,RATHER SHE WOULD BE ADVICED TO SETTLE IT WITHIN THE FAMILY.
IN THAT CASE, BECAUSE IT IS WRONG TO QUESTION AND DISGRACE ONES HUSBAND IN YORUBA LAND(NIGERIA) THAT VERY CRIME WILL BE SHELVED AND THEY ARE EXPECTED TO CARRY ON WITH THEIR LIVES AS IF NOTHING HAPPENED.
BUT, WAIT! NOBODY IS THINKING ABOUT THE MOLESTED GIRL IN QUESTION, THE TRAUMA SHE IS GOING THROUGH,HOW SHE NOW FEELS ABOUT LIFE?,HERSELF?,HER FATHER?, MEN IN TOTALITY?,WHAT CAN BE DONE TO RESTORE HER CONFIDENCE AND HOW CAN SHE BE ABLE TO PURIFY HERSELF INTERNALLY AND STOP SEEING HERSELF AS DIRTY LIKE THE STIGMA THE SOCIETY HAS PLACED ON HER? BUT RATHER SHE WOULD EVEN BE REBUKED OF WANTING TO DESTROY HER PARENTS MARRIAGE BUT WHAT ABOUT HER RIGHT TO SAFETY? ZERO! BECAUSE OF CULTURE. NO ONE WANTS TO TALK ABOUT SUCH SITUATION BECAUSE IT IS SEEN AS A TOPIC THAT SHOULD NOT EVEN PASS BY A "SECOND EAR" AS THE YORUBAS PUT IT.
WE ARE IN A SOCIETY IN WHICH EVERY
MAN'S MISDEED IS SEEN AS NORMALCY AND A FEMALE'S MISDEED IS SEEN AS A GRAVE OFFENCE
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